Idk if it's just me, but lately most hip hop/r&b songs are singing about how sexy "independent" women are. What exactly makes a girl 'independent'? Well according to Webbie, independence is when a woman "has her own house, own car, works hard, two jobs...". Fair enough. I would say that's independent. According to Neyo, it's such a turn on when a woman wants him, but doesn't need him. He loves it when she says "don't worry, I got it".
Guys love to be treated and taken care of just as much [if not more] as women do. Most guys love independent women because they know that if they are privileged enough to be a part of her life, it's because she wants him, not because she needs him for anything. Why is being wanted more desirable than being needed? And why all the sudden support for women being independent and playing more instrumental roles in life and relationships?
I'm just curious. Is it better to be an independent woman than to be a housewife? I also wonder, while being independent, does that enable you to be submissive? Does it make marriage less desirable? Does it make women more defiant? If a woman has no need for a man, doesn't that make him somewhat disposable?
These are all just thoughts. Being independent, whether male or female, is always a great thing to be. I just wonder if there is such a thing as a "too independent" woman. Thoughts?
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ReplyDeleteI do think having an independent woman is attractive because of the reasons you stated above, the fact that she actually wants him but she doesnt need him. A girl who is too needy tends to become a burden and causes you to run from the relationship. Is there such a thing as being "too independent"? I think yes. There is a point where some woman point out so much that they can take care of themselves and do xyz themselves that a guy will start to feel like, "so what do you need me for, just the dick"?. I think some women portray this whole independent persona because they are afraid to be vulnerable.
i feel like this whole "i need an independent woman craze" is hyped up more than its genuinely appreciated..it makes a nice hook for a song but i have seen too many times guys go for the submissive chick who needs him and who he can mold
ReplyDeleteas a matter of fact i know some men who truly find independent women as a threat to their manhood..not all men...but there are definitely some!
You learn what you need. You know what you want. A dude meets a girl that may have a killer body and he wants her but after a while he finds out she's a dinosaur, killer body, walnut size brain, insatiable appetite and he realizes what he needs and don't want. He needs someone that's gonna build with him, laugh with, have real conversation with and above all truth with. Now a Killer Body and an insatiable appetite with everything else is a good thing too! 8-)
ReplyDeleteWant and Need! Need is something that makes a man sometimes remember he is a man, mortal, not invinable and that he is above all vulnerable! That is taken as weakness.
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I think there are a lot of misconceptions when it comes to being an independent woman and thus the reason most men are intimidated by them. I dont think being independent is any better than being a housewife. Housewives are taking care of home, the kids, cooking and cleaning, and that is a sign of indepedence in itself. I think that independent woman are looked at as too headstrong, that they dont need a man, when that is totally wrong. We all want companionship, we all want to be and feel love no matter how much money we have in the bank.
ReplyDeleteBeing a housewife doesn't mean you are submissive just like being independent doesn't mean you always want to be dominant. The generalizations about both are really starting to get our of control. Like every housewife in the world is exactly alike and every career woman in the world is exactly alike.